March 9, 2021
Today is our anniversary. ❤ Two years ago, one of us chose to shoot her shot and asked the other one out.
It wasn’t me.
At the time, I was done being messed over by people. I’d been ghosted by one too many loved ones, platonic and romantic, and had vowed to not pursue love again unless it pursued me first.
Little did I know, SOMEONE had been mustering up her courage. And on March 9, 2019, she put on her Boots o’ Confidence, her “I’m Sexy AF” little black jacket, drove to my house with a care package of compression socks and a mango (that’s its own story 🤣), and asked me out.
“Ask me again in a week.”
Like I said, I was tired of being messed over and wasn’t about to get my face busted over what I figured was a temporary crush.
I’m so glad I was wrong.
Today we are two years strong and looking forward to more. We’re building a life together, one day at a time, one step at a time. We’re able to do that because we both embody the qualities we each have sought in partners: respect, communication, autonomy, ambition, courage, humor, understanding, patience, open-mindedness, Self awareness, emotional management, and so much more. Our relationship isn’t just about what “feels” good (though admittedly it feels good 95% of the time). We also both put in the effort to MAKE it good.
Plus we have fun. A LOT of fun. We both love to adventure and we both love to eat. And in addition to loving each other, we also LIKE each other. Folks forget how important it is to actually like their partners as people.
She has been the first person to accept all of me for who I am, and holds space for me to BE all of who I am. As I grow and change and embrace new and different parts of my Self, she embraces them too. She never makes me feel like I’m not good enough, or that I don’t love her enough, or that I as a person am not enough. And when I DO feel those things, because we all still deal with negative inner voices and trauma, she affirms me. She affirms US. And I truly hope I do the same for her.
This is just a small piece of our story, and I hope it continues for decades to come. ❤
How’d you meet: She joined my Anime Chics group in 2017.
First Date: Pre-date at her place. She made spaghetti. First official date at Cajun Queen.
How long have you been together: 2 years today!
Married or not: Not yet. 😉
Age difference: 6 years.
Who is older: Me.
Who was interested first: Hmmm…kinda sorta me when I first met her, but she totally moved on it first when she was ready.
Who said I love you first: Not sure but probably me. I’m good for that, lol.
Most impatient: Her. She’s working on it.
Most sensitive: It depends.
Loudest: Both of us, maybe?
Most stubborn: I say her.
Falls asleep first: Her.
Cooks better: DEFINITELY her!
Better morning person: Also her.
Better driver: Damn, her too. I’m losing.
Most Competitive: Hmmm, probably both.
Funniest: Shoot, her too probably.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Blue Orchid. Best ramen ever! Japanese places in general. Oh, and Pollo Campero!
Who is more social? Both. She’s an extrovert and I’m a social introvert.
Who is the neat freak? I think I’m neater (finally got one!)
Where was your first kiss? Her place on the pre-date.
How long did it take to get serious? Uh, a couple of weeks? I tried to talk her out of it but she was determined to be my girlfriend and up for the challenge, so I finally gave in. 🤣
Who’s indecisive? Neither, really.
Who spends more? Her, cuz my money be funny.
Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? The person who’s wrong, duh.
Has more tattoos? She does. I have none.
Who sings better? Equally not impressive.
Who hogs the remote? We share.
Did you go to the same high school? Nope.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together? Japan!
Who drives when you’re going somewhere together? She does. She hates my driving.